Dear Dr. Sabrina

I am writing you because I am a man who needs some advice about my relationship with my daughter. I have a 28 year old daughter who has 3 children by 3 different fathers. Now I love my grandchildren and help out as much as I can. My daughter’s way of life is so far from how she was raised. She works a very good job and makes good money, however she is very materialistic and selfish. She does not treat her children very well and is very mean to the 3 fathers.

My oldest grandson has cerebral palsy and requires a lot of care. My girlfriend and I assist a lot. Now, my challenge is how she lies to my grandson’s father. She receives monthly payment for my grandson. However, his father works so hard to assist financially, even working 2 full- time jobs. He pays her child support yet he provides much more care than she does. I am so conflicted as I know she is my daughter but I do not want to support her negative behaviors. Should I say something to her about my observations or just stay silent?

Conflicted Father