Dear Dr. Sabrina,

I hope this message finds you well. I'm reaching out for advice regarding a challenging situation with my middle daughter, who is 21. I have been divorced from her mom for 10 years and our co-parenting relationship is quite strained, and it seems to affect my communication with my daughters.

My ex talks extremely bad about me in front of our daughters. I know that they feel free to say crazy things to me because she does not correct them. It really hurts my feelings as I do love my daughters. They seem to only reach out when they want something.

Recently, the 21 year old, asked me for $100 for some cosmetic items. I explained that I couldn't provide the money until Friday, but in response, she was extremely disrespectful, saying things like if I didn’t want kids, I should have "wrapped it up" and that my responsibilities extend beyond just turning 18. She also told me to stop talking to her and mentioned she would send a Cash App request on Friday.

I work as a SMART bus driver and struggle to meet my monthly expenses, so I'm torn about whether to pay this request. I want to support my daughters, but I also believe it's important to set boundaries regarding disrespectful behavior.

How should I handle this situation? Should I pay her request, or is there a better way to address her attitude while still being a supportive father?

Thank you from Conflicted Dad