Jealous or Justified is a monthly segment where we ask our readers to analyze the situation of someone who has asked for our help to see if the person is being Jealous or are they Justified in feeling the way they feel.

Please keep in mind that the term “Jealous” can mean many things in the context of this segment. It doesn’t and won’t always mean jealous in its true meaning. Perhaps the person is just in their feeling a bit too much.

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Dear Beautiful Machine,

I hope this message finds you well. I am reaching out seeking your guidance on a matter that has deeply affected me. As a Black Christian man, I have cherished friendships with individuals of the Jewish community. Witnessing the distressing events in Gaza has been truly disheartening for me. I firmly believe that any loss of life is a tragic occurrence that pains me deeply.

In the wake of these events, I have engaged in extensive conversations with my close Jewish friend. I have predominantly assumed the role of a listener during these discussions, as I acknowledge my limited knowledge about the complexities underlying this conflict. My stance as a Christian compels me to pray fervently for peace, encompassing all affected parties.

However, my prayerful approach seems insufficient for my friend. Recently, during our conversation, he expressed a sentiment that startled me. He remarked, "I hope Israel flattens the place." In response, I expressed concern about the potential loss of innocent lives inherent in such an action.

Regrettably, my comment seemed to deeply upset him. He went on to accuse me of harboring antisemitic sentiments and declared an end to our friendship. The reality is that, despite living through this prolonged conflict, I lack comprehensive knowledge to confidently take sides or make substantial comments.

My personal conviction rests on the belief that every life holds equal value. Therefore, my earnest wishes and prayers are for peace to prevail on both sides of the conflict.

I have contemplated reaching out to my friend to discuss and possibly reconcile our differences. However, I am unsure whether revisiting our friendship is the right course of action given the present circumstances.

The weight of these recent events has become overwhelming for me. Amidst it all, my sole solace remains in prayer for peace.

Thank you for your attention to this matter.

Sincerely,
M. Riley